So here I am with the unexpected gift of a free day on one of my weekends. I also have at least 3 guys online asking to meet.
I find myself trying to work out if I can squeeze in seeing all of them.
This sounds like a great plan, after all it isn't a lot different to speed dating, except the guys only get to meet one gal.
How do I work this?
Could I actually achieve this?
Should I actually achieve this?
My friend is working in a local bar so this seems like the perfect safe place to meet.
My guilt kicks in, what if a date drags on?
What if I get put on the spot and have to explain I have other dates on the day?
What if I actually like one of them (this one is hugely in doubt).
I start getting stressed about it.
I can't do underhand. I'm just basically too honest.
I know online dating is a numbers game and every guy I am chatting to will be chatting to other women, but everyone likes to think they are special, even me.
I contemplate It more when I find myself awake again at 2.30am with my brain working overtime.
Ok. With one exception who I have already agreed to meet in the morning for a coffee (well mine will be a tea) I wasn't blown away about meeting any of the others.
In fact a couple I'm definitely not sure about so I decide honesty is the best policy and if they don’t like it then it is also a good way to reduce down the numbers.
So when I woke up this morning to a message from the chap who looked a bit like a terrorist (Sorry politically incorrect, but I bet you can picture him) but seemed sweet, checking If I'm still free to meet tomorrow I used it as an opportunity to test the waters with this response…
I hope you're not easily offended.
I've been asked out by a number of men but I only have 1 afternoon completely free for the next 3 weeks to meet anyone.
If it doesn't bother you that my time will be limited and you can make it to my hometown let me know and I can tell you where and when I can meet you.
Hope you don't mind the honesty.
So now I guess we wait and see.
Ooh he has replied.
I don't know if I want to open it.
Weird isn't it?
I'm not really bothered but I hate the idea of upsetting someone or them being rude to me in return.
Shall I open it?
I'm putting it off.
I'll do it after breakfast.
No. Let's get it over with. Here goes.
Ok. He said it was completely understandable.
He didn't say yes or no but at least he's not offended.
😌 what a relief.
He's back with advice that in future I should say I'm meeting family or friends as it's not a good look knowing I'm meeting 3-4 people.
He did still ask where and when to meet though.
I told him I knew it would seem better but I'm a lousy liar.
I feel super bad now.
Goodness: It's difficult to do online dating like a man when you have a conscience.
Online advice should have read ‘Have surgery to remove conscience then date like a man.’