Flings, Fails, and Forties Tales

Lessons Required


19/04/2025

So my first date is done.

Woo hoo!! Bandage removed. Job done.
It actually went better than expected.

He was very nice, had lovely eyes and was very stylish. 
Talking was a bit tricky, because of language issues and also because he would often just stare into my eyes.

Couple of downsides, he smokes which is a no on my profile and he is the same height as me, which is a bit tricky if I ever wanted to wear heels.

We went for a walk after our drink and he wanted to hold hands, which I didn’t mind but also didn’t really want.
It didn’t feel right.
I know it's been a long time since I held a mans hand other than my husbands and part of it feels odd to be doing it at all, but I also hope when I find someone I click with then it will all come flooding back and I will feel the same desires and instincts I did when I was younger.
Or at least it will feel right and not awkward.

Here’s hoping anyway.

So now, I haven’t decided if I will see him again or not, but he is very keen and this brings me to the part I hate most about dating. 
It's one of the reasons I didn’t do more of it in my teens and twenties. I hate upsetting people.

I know most people just ghost people they aren’t interested in nowadays. 
I think this is simply the worst.
I mean I hate upsetting people or letting people down but ghosting someone must make them feel even worse.
I think it's the coward's way out.

So if anyone has any tips on how to gently let a man down, let me know?

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