My White Whale

This guy I just can't figure out.

 

He sent a great opening message and we got chatting. 

His pics online make him look attractive but serious and the quality is weird so they definitely look edited or AI

 

However we hit it off chatting and I asked him to send me more pics. 

He does, but explains they are all filtered and he doesn't like pics of himself. 

They look a little too polished so I am already suspicious and google search is inconclusive. 

 

He is shy. Not really been in a relationship. Spent his life studying, working or in the gym. 

If the pics are 50% real he isn't lying about the gym. Trust me.

 

We hit it off quick. Which has not really happened before and spend the evening chatting and for a change it was innocent Chat. 

 

The next day things heat up a lot but still respectfully. No dick pics etc.

A few odd GIFs.

 

We pretty much chat all weekend. 

He tells me he is away for work next week and maybe he can get back at the weekend to see me. 

He even says he'll still chat whilst he is away.

 

Whilst he is away he tells me he has been offered a job abroad then randomly disappears for a couple of days.

 

My head is full of the negative, that's what online dating does to your psyche. 

I'm over analysing every little detail again. 

Trying to work out his angle, what is he trying to get out of me?

 

Must be another catfish but I can’t figure out what he wants. 

His online pics aren’t that great to get in lots of women, he isn’t online much. 

We talk about all sorts of random stuff and he actually seems to care about what I have to say.

 

What con is he trying to pull here?

 

Nothing adds up.

 

One minute super keen to meet, next vanished. 

Pics are too good to be true and all my friends have said he is AI. 

I mean obviously he must be, why would a gorgeous 35 year old be interested in me.

 

Keep running checks online and it says not likely but a lot of filters used, which I already know.

 

So he is AWOL. So I write him off.

 

Then Friday he's back again.

We say we'll meet but I use the advice I've read and ask to video chat first and move our chat on to WhatsApp. 

He agrees I send my number and we aim to do it that evening, no set times. 

Then he vanishes again!!

 

So he has shown his true colours. 

He is playing me, the pics aren't real. 

He must just enjoy having women chat to him and flatter him but when it comes to meeting or seeing him he vanishes.

 

So I go into the weekend (child free) determined to forget him, maybe chat to some new fellas online and have a good time with my friends.

 

Then bang he is back. He is sick. He fell asleep. He is sorry. 

 

I’m busy having fun with my friends but I call him out on playing me and he denies it and says sorry. 

 

I figure now he has been called out and realises I have figured out he is playing me (for what I have no idea) he'll disappear again and it does go quiet.

 

Until he contacts me again Sunday just checking in. 

This all seems so bizarre. I can't get a handle on it. 

So I decided it's time I used this whole online dating as a sort of psychological experiment. Research shall we say. 

Into the minds of the modern man.

 

That then led me to start writing stuff down to get it out of my head and eventually I considered blogging. 

 

Jesus! Me, do a blog? Surely not. That would be insane. 

I have no idea where I would begin. What would be the point? 

No one can know who I am and no one would want to read the madness in my mind.

 

The trouble was once the thought was in my brain I couldn't shake it. It was like a worm wiggling around. 

So here I am, doing it.

Honestly I must have gone mad.

 

So back to the enigma.

I keep expecting him to ask for money or something. 

I have even called him out on it numerous times and told him I don't trust him and he still keeps talking to me and making all the right noises. 

However, not in a charming smarmy way the catfish did. 

In a very naive, shy but keen way.

 

So I ask if he trusts me, which he says he does. So I blatantly ask for his phone number. 

Surely if he was on the up and up he would just give it to me. 

Nope. 

He asks for mine and says he'll call me. 

Now I know you can just make a fake phone number on Google, (I discovered this whilst doing research.) 

So if it is a racket of some sort why doesn't he just do that. Honestly it does my head in.

 

This seems to do the trick. He has finally given up the ghost. So I know he must have had an angle but I still can’t figure out what it was and that bugs me. 

 

Time for me to move on again!!