When the hunter becomes the hunted.
Buckle up!
Its a new day and I wake a little down but determined I’m not going to let some arsehole scammer keep me down.
Out of habit I pick up my phone and realise there won’t be any messages as I have blocked him.
First thing I do is go on to pof and freeze my account, I don’t need this rubbish anymore.
I am done!!
I need a break!
Time to reset and clear my head.
Maybe meet a few people in real life, without the use of AI or any other technology which is slowly killing society.
For now, I just need some space.
I’m feeling ok and, in some ways, a little relieved, my gut instinct had been warning me for a while, but I was ignoring it and that was clearly stressing me out. Now I know the whole truth I can move on.
That is until I see a Teams notification come up from him. It would seem that although I have blocked him Teams notifications are still on and telling me if he messages. He is laying on the guilt massively. Makes me feel sick.
I block all notifications from TEAMS and move on with my day, until a friend pointed out to me that I should have played along and tried to get his bank details to hand over to the police.
She's right of course but he stressed me out so much I didn’t think I could handle all the mind games.
That is until he starts reaching out via whatsapp instead.
I can’t believe it, he has changed his tone again now, back to being sympathetic and caring.
‘Good day gorgeous’
‘How did you sleep last night?’
‘How are you doing today?’
‘You haven’t been active on teams, hope all is well? I’m a bit worried. Please send me a message as soon as you get my messages.’
I tell my gals and we start plotting. It’s time for a little payback and with my friends on my side this feels more like fun and stops that sickening sensation in my stomach.
I need to delay him and explain why I have been AWOL
‘Sorry had a little emergency here. Bit tied up at the mo.’ Is my starting response.
He takes the bait
‘What’s going on baby?’
Can we keep talking here for now?’
Here goes, lets see if he believes my excuse,
‘Yes, Sorry. I think someone has got hold of some details and hacked some of my accounts. I’m just trying to figure out what has been affected and how it has happened. Can’t believe it 😭’
Oh, he is shocked.
‘What???’
Probably kicking himself that someone beat him to the punch.
‘How did it happen??’ - I could do with extra tips for my next target.
‘Oh baby, hope you haven’t lost any valuable??’ - Because then I won’t be able to steal them from you.
‘Did you give out your details to anyone?’ - Not yet but you are hoping I will.
‘No. I wouldn’t do that. I can’t think how it’s happened. I’m just trying to figure out how bad it is.
‘Give me some time and I’ll be able to chat more.’
‘Ok baby, I’m here’ 🤮
‘Omg this sucks a lot’
‘Don’t get your blood pressure high with thought now my love’
‘It’ll be fine.’
‘Thanks 😘’
‘You’re welcome baby.’
‘How’s it going now?’
‘What's going on?’ - He is starting to sound a little desperate.
‘Has this ever happened to you? It’s so frustrating?’
‘Any advice for me?’ – because I am just a simple woman who needs a man to help her solve her problems.
‘I’m on the phone to banks and just blocking everything as fast as possible.’
‘What’s going on? Exactly??’
‘Please make sure they do not have any access?’ - He is so worried about the money he wants to steal.
‘How could people be so cruel?’ - The audacity
‘I’ve never had a threat from my bank externally. Only from my ex. I happened to have let her in on my log in and left her with it.
But that didn’t count to me I was in love.
This!?
No Way!
What are you doing now?’
Baby!
I couldn’t help myself, it was time to get a dig or 2 in.
‘I just don't know. It’s so evil and selfish.
They have no idea how hard I work to just keep a roof over my families heads and get my daughter the help she needs😢’
In response to his comment about his ex I said ‘That’s even worse when someone who says they love you steal from you 💔’
Hint hint, how many times has he said he loves me.
So the conversation continues on and off until later in the evening when he is thinking he might need to cut his loses as I am probably going to be on red alert.
‘You must really detest me now’
‘Mentioned my bearing a lot of red flags.’
‘Just feeling really unsettled’
‘I dunno if I should just let you be so you can go through all these’
‘May be give you the space you do deserve’
‘As I try to figure myself out as well.’
I’m thinking he is off now and I was hoping to get more evidence against him. I can’t lay it on thick as he won’t believe it as it would be so different from any of my previous conversations. So I just say
‘I’m sorry I’ve been so distracted today’ and left it there.
The next morning I wake to no less than 21 messages from him at 1.19am onwards.
These include
‘You know? I’m not one to leave another in hard times’ - Ha ha ha ha ha!
‘I can’t even get sleep’ - My heart is bleeding
‘Thinking about you’
‘About the whole situation’
‘Everything is so messy’
‘Yours accounts being threatened’
‘My bank not logging in’
‘And also the tension between us’
‘I know I’ve always said I will be patient and all and still jump into trying to make you acknowledge my feelings and yours incase you have any’
‘I’m apologizing whole heartedly’
‘I won’t say I promise it won’t happen again.
I don’t want to break a promise’
‘But it won’t happen again baby’
‘God.
Lol I f**king am falling in love with you.
Thats the only issue here.
I’ve fallen for you but you want us to meet and take things slow.’
‘Alright we will take things slow’
It goes on.
So I continue chatting with him the next day and magically he has been able to access his account to do the first payment he needs. He probably figures that will give me time to get over my concerns before he needs to ask me for another ‘favour’.
In the afternoon I contact the fraud organisation to find out what the best course of action is. I was thinking the more info I was able to obtain the easier it would be for them to find him and take action.
However, they advise me to block him and stop all contact.
So I block him from Teams and Whatsapp and consider that the end.
Bizarrely I felt quite sick when later that evening he tried to call me on the phone.
I had to block him that way too.
So Mr Romantic turned out to be Mr Long Con after all.
Shame I can't get a job in this, finding all the con men. I think I would really enjoy it and would be doing a worthwhile service to female kind.